When does Imposter Syndrome go away?
You aren’t going to like my answer. Imposter Syndrome may never go away; and for some, it can become a constant companion to other mental health issues. But, most people aren’t secretly getting through life on luck alone. And, most people definitely aren’t going out of their way to trick people into liking them like it’s a long con. Imposter Syndrome can pop up for anyone and in many different forms. For us, it has popped up from time to time, as proof that we are at the edge of our comfort zones and as an opportunity to go beyond them.
Imposter Syndrome at Work
Workplace imposter syndrome feels like the most talked about version of these feelings. Maybe because the corporate structure is rigid and moving “up the ladder” can mean moving into a completely new group of people with new worries and new goals? Maybe it’s because many people are trained to feel like they don’t belong in certain spaces, but exist in them despite? Being scared of failure is a natural part of learning anything new, so it's understandable that imposter syndrome creeps up for many. Focus your energy on what you can control, and do your best to let go of what you can’t.
Imposter Syndrome with Mental Health Issues
Imposter Syndrome is often linked to depression, anxiety, and a slew of other mental health issues. This is because feelings of failure, fear of being exposed as some form of monster, and attributing most things to luck instead of personal preparation and skill are common symptoms between all of these disorders. Unfortunately, sometimes there’s nothing to do except do the thing anyway. Go to that class or that job interview with a pit in your stomach, but go; because eventually the pit might fill in a bit.
Imposter Syndrome within Relationships
Friendships and romantic relationships can both stir up feelings of inadequacy from time to time. We tend to only remember the things we have done wrong or the times we messed up. We think that these transgressions equal up to prove our secret scheming, manipulative souls. Or, that we couldn’t possibly be a good person. But, just because we think it doesn’t make it true. Try to trust that those around you are there for a reason. You are worthy of genuine friendships and romantic relationships for no reason other than that you exist. And, if you’re still worried, remember: you can’t manipulate anyone into sincerity.
Can Imposter Syndrome be a Good Thing?
Imposter syndrome can be a good thing. It's a moment to remind ourselves of our worth and the preparation it took to get where you are. Because even if you feel like you’re failing, it doesn’t mean you actually are. Try being open with a trusted group about your failures. It allows everyone to remember that failure is a significant part of success and feel more confident with the knowledge that everyone messes up from time to time. Be loud about your lows, because you can shrivel in them silently.
